Mimi Bosika

What Is A Global Citizen?

February 12, 2009 · 5 Comments

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When I was eighteen, I was selected to represent my high school in a North American essay contest. The question was, “In an increasingly global society, what do you think it means to be a global citizen?” I was lucky enough to be one of the ten winners who were chosen out of 2000 entries.  Our prize was a small scholarship and a ten day trip to Europe – London, Paris, Pisa, Florence and Rome.  The experience was life-changing. Below is my essay. 

I remember being eleven and flying on the big plane.  Under me was the Atlantic Ocean, behind me was my home Yugoslavia, and before me was my new country America.  I was sitting next to a little girl whose skin color was different than mine.  She didn’t speak my language, but we still managed to play and laugh together for hours.  During this trip I decided that I liked being friends with people, no matter what they looked like or if they stood what I was saying.  I decided that one of my biggest goals is to travel all over the world and make as may friends as possible.  Above me was the sky, and like it, my experiences with people would have no limit.  I was going to be the greatest global friend and citizen.

 I was born in Yugoslavia, a country which I thought was the greatest in the world.  In 1991, a civil war broke out in my country.  According to the news, many people were killed and the country was torn apart.  However, those stories only gave the facts of the consequences of the war.  They did not express the despair in the hearts of the people who live there.  I know that it is my duty, as a global citizen, to tell my American classmates about my countrymen’s pain. 

I came to the United States when I was in fifth grade.  After a few weeks of living here, I began attending school.  On my first day of school, all I could do was introduce myself to my new friends with the few English words with which I was familiar.  I still remember that day because the teacher had devoted it to me.  Even though conversations were rare, I spent many hours showing everyone pictures of my home and pointing out my country on a globe.  From then on, my classmates devoted themselves to teaching me to speak English, and in turn, I told them stories of what life was like in Yugoslavia.  

Years later, I still enjoy speaking of my country, knowing that I am the only bridge some of my friends have between America and my home country.  I tell them about Yugoslavia’s past and present.  I remember traveling with my father throughout Yugoslavia when I was a little girl.  We spent weeks in the Yugoslav Alps in Slovenia before going to the Adriatic coast in Croatia.  The remains of the castles in Dubrovnik, a city on the coast, were amazing to look at just after sunrise.  The world famous Sarajevo is known for many reasons.  In 1912, Gavrilo Princip’s shooting of Franz Ferdinand triggered World War I and decades later, Sarajevo was the site of the 1984 Winter Olympics.  On th other side of the country, in the republic of Monte Negro, is one of the most popular and beautiful islands of the Adriatic called St. Stephen.  Meanwhile, Belgrade, the capital of Yugoslavia located in Serbia, was a center of gowing technology and modern fashion.  For a long time the city was the only one in the country where one could enjoy an American cheeseburger at McDonald’s. 

Since I was six, I have been a competitive table tennis player.  Participating in the sport has opened new opportunities for me, especially concerning my contribution to the world as a global citizen.  Table tennis is the second most played sport in the world, and since I was little, my father who coached the 1996 US Olympic team has also devoted his time trying to make me the best player that I can be.  In order to achieve success, it has been important for me to travel all over the world and train with players from other countries.  After years of traveling, I was able to expand my knowledge about other countries and lifestyles.  Furthermore, I am able to share my personal experiences to those who are interested in hearing more about the cultures I encountered. 

My table tennis friends have taught me many things about their countries.  Kelly Nagaoka of Brazil still remains my devoted pen-pal.  Inga Viktorova and Stas Jelkovski of Russia showed me pictures of the great castles in Moskow.  Koji Ishibashi and Hiro Hikawa of Japan taught me how to count in Japanese. Wei Ni Wang sent me a video of the Great Wall of China.  Carlos Grasso of Uruguay taught me the “right way” to speak Spanish when visiting his country.  Hagen Bower of New Zealand invited me to visit his house by the ocean.  French-Canadian Nicolas Brunet explained why Quebec is unique compared to the rest of Canada.  Ute Scheven invited me to go train with her in Berlin.  Thomas Brolin, soccer superstar, spoke to me about the freezing climate in Sweden, especially when it gets dark at 2 o’clock in the afternoon.  Saudi Arabian Akram Geelani showed me how Muslims pray to Mecca. Ogimundu Gbenga and his wife Tawa taught me how to braid my hair “Nigerian style”.  

I know that the experiences I’ve had so far in my life are valuable and should be shared; however, I also know that the experiences that await me in the near future will complete me as a global citizen.  Although I haven’t visited all the countries where my friends live, I hope to do so someday as a journalist.  It is my goal to pursue this career for two reasons.  First, I wish to educate more about the lifestyles of people from all parts of the globe.   Second, I hope that the knowledge I acquire will help me build relationships with those people who are interested in learning about the things I write. I want to continue learning about people and places. I’m learning Spanish, my fourth language, so that I can communicate better with new people I meet.  As a journalist, I hope to serve as the connection between the citizens of this globe.

The world is becoming one large global community.  We are all connected in some way.  Countries depend on imports and economic help form others.  People of different religions and cultures live together in many areas.  Art and entertainment is spreading faster than ever.  Athletes are often in contact with each other though they live oceans away.  And the only way to keep this global community from disputes and wars is to educate its citizens.

 People can watch the news and read books, but the best way to learn about other countries is to listen to someone who has visited them and experienced the suffering and the joy of the people who live there.  As a former citizen of Yugoslavia, I can tell people of the great country I once lived in and the war which led to its downfall.  Maybe if I tell them about the mistakes I have seen they will not be tempted to make the same mistakes again. 

A global citizen educates.  He connects two worlds.  He talks about the misery of one society and the joy of another.  He speaks the truth. He is not scared to get personally involved with the suffering or the joy.  He does not take sides.  He always keeps an open mind for differences.  He accepts challenges and successfully finds solutions to struggles against humanity.  He makes many friends – black, white, red, brown and yellow.  He learns to communicate even if he can’t speak the language.  He feels the pain, and the torture, and the bliss.  He can go to Egypt and clearly describe the smell of the sand.  He is eager to experience everything worth experiencing.  He likes to speak his mind as long as his words don’t hurt others.  He does not question why men wear skirts in some countries.  He accepts the way people and societies live and only promises to spread their passion.  He builds knowledge.

One day, I hope to have these qualities.  I want to inform people by sharing my experiences.  Since I was little, I have had the desire of becoming everyone’s friend.  Today, I have the desire to be known as a global citizen.

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Before The Roses Died: Memories Of My Childhood In Yugoslavia

January 7, 2009 · 5 Comments

 

MimiAfter climbing the Great Wall, after attending a world-class institution, after the trophies, the opportunities and the achievements, I still think that some of the most meaningful moments of my life happened when I was a kid in Yugoslavia. It’s hard to explain to my American friends or even to those who came here from other parts of the world exactly how I feel. I was eleven when my family moved to the United States. We came to visit my aunt and uncle, but decided to stay because things back home were becoming tense. I was lucky enough not to experience the war, though I felt another kind of pain from far away. I knew that my life would never be the same.Yes, I rode the big yellow bus to school every day and started a new life, but I also missed my home, my family and my friends. When people asked me how the U.S. was different compared to Yugoslavia, the first thing I always thought of was that I had more freedom there. It sounded silly since my country was at war. 

 

School PerformanceFreedom to me meant having independence at an early age.  In the summertime, I rode my bike home alone from my friend’s house at 9 o’clock at night.  After school each day, starting when I was seven, I took the bus from one town to another to get to table tennis practice. My friends and I enjoyed hanging out together for hours while drinking Pepsi and eating ice cream at Mitica’s confection shop. Perhaps because we had similar ambitions or maybe because we spent so much time together training, traveling to tournaments or creating dance routines for school, my friends and I became each others’ biggest supporters. We weren’t scared to face the world and experience new things.

 Pride is another word that I associate with my home country.  When I was in first grade, we were learning about our country’s history and geography.  Our teacher spoke proudly about Yugoslavia.  She bragged, “We have the Alps, the Adriatic, and the Danube. We have great farms and great cities. We have people of different nationalities and religions living next to each other in peace.  We are respected all over the world.”

 Times have changed.

 

My country was ripped apart.  Left behind were wounds that couldn’t seem to heal and memories of better days.  It was hard for me to readjust even though I lived in the States.  My identity was questioned.  I used to say that I was from Yugoslavia and I was quickly reminded by my American friends that “Yugoslavia doesn’t exist anymore.”  They failed to realize that it still existed in my mind and that I couldn’t relate to anything different.  As time went on I started to accept the way things had turned out.  In the past, so many of my good friends came from different regions of the country.  Now, when I met new people from the former Yugoslavia, I hesitate to assume that we will be close friends, but I hope that I’m wrong.  Though we speak the same language, we all call it something different – Serbian, Croatian, Bosnian. I think it’s hard for all of us.

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I went back home a few years ago to visit.  My house was new when we left, but it became just a lonely and worn-down keeper of memories.  There were no more rows of colorful roses in the yard and my rusty blue bike hadn’t been touched by a happy child in years.  I’m not sure whether I simply blocked negative memories I had of my childhood in Yugoslavia, but I certainly don’t mind that I don’t have many. Though my life and home are here now, Yugoslavia is very close to my heart because I still have family and friends there.  I often have flashbacks of my childhood when simple things made me so happy.  I remember picking berries in our garden, riding on the back of my grandfather’s bike, singing “We are called Unirea” with my team, buying sunflower seeds at soccer games, eating Eurocrem and Smoki, competing in Senta and Coka, spending summer days by the Tamis, going to the Disko with Octi and listening to Bajaga with Vera, playing hide and seek with my neighbors in clover fields, practicing dance routines with my classmates.  I remember watching Branko Kockica in the afternoons and the Smurfs on Sunday nights.  I remember vacations in Croatia and training camps in Slovenia. I remember trying to make perfume from rose petals and sharing homemade ice cream with friends.  I remember the first time I met Santa and the first time I went to the movie theater. I remember colorful folk paintings on walls. And my pretty house. And laughter. 

Laughter

 

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Find Strategy In Your Wallet

January 4, 2009 · Leave a Comment

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I was in a class once where the retired CEO of a very successful industrial company came to talk to us about building an outstanding business.  He said something simple, but memorable, as he handed out a $2 bill to each of us: “A successful business is like a $2 bill – it’s rare, unique and has value.”

Rare

It’s all about supply and demand.  Supplying a product or service that is hard to find means that people will be willing to pay more for it if they want it.  Examples: Picasso painting, flawless diamond, Tickle-Me-Elmo on Christmas

Unique

Just because something is unique doesn’t mean that it’s also rare.  People are willing to pay for unique products or services for a variety of reasons – to be popular, to enjoy the experience, to benefit from a combination of features, etc.  Examples:  iPhone, Ritz-Carlton, earmuffs with built-in headphones

Valuable

In business school they always talk about the importance of a “value proposition”.  Here is the statement that every company should use (fill in the details) to describe its value to customers:  For (target customer) who (benefits desired), (product/service) (key values delivered).  Unlike competitors, (product/service) (competitive advantage or differentiation of values of importance to customers).  If this is difficult for businesses to write, perhaps the value is missing or not high enough.  Example:  For athletes who want to be the best in their sport, Mimi’s Training Center provides a comprehensive training program.  Unlike competitors, Mimi’s Training Center employs only experts who have more than 20 years of experience, including former Olympians, award winning sports psychologists and world-class practice partners.

OK, so this $2 bill analogy is one simple perspective about what it takes to achieve success, but it isn’t the only answer.  Soft drinks aren’t rare and unique, but Coca Cola seems to be doing fine year after year.  Nevertheless, these ideas apply to many businesses and they always come in handy whenever I think about my next new venture.  I still have my $2 bill and might use it as a down payment one day when I invest in my own business.

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9 Resolutions for 2009 That Everyone Should Have

December 31, 2008 · Leave a Comment

Get a boyfriend, spend less money on coffee, walk the dog every day….Everyone has specific and personal resolutions each new year, but here are a few that I thought we should all have every year.

 

1. Make health your number one priority.

Whether it means exercising more, meditating, eating less sugar, drinking wheatgrass juice or simply taking a walk, we don’t have anything when we don’t have our health. In addition to the worry and stress that we create for our family, our energy for life and our own state of mind suffers when we don’t feel great.

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 2. Stay close to your family

I didn’t understand this when I was younger, but it is undeniably true that our parents and family can always be counted on to support us when there is no one else in our corner. Though screening phone calls is easy, I never miss an opportunity to talk to my family members when they call. They are my biggest fans and I am theirs.

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3. Surround yourself with good people and be good to them

Good friends have flaws, but they rarely try to make us feel bad about ourselves. If our friends criticize more than support us, lie and betray us, or can’t be happy for us, it’s time to say good-bye. If we are those friends, it’s time to change.

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4. Volunteer

As a first generation American, I am most impressed by this country’s willingness to help others without seeking financial gain. Let’s be honest…doing something for someone else feels good, especially if it’s a cause that is close to our hearts. I think that it’s ok to be selfish and seek satisfaction from volunteering because we are helping others in the process.

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5. Simplify your life

There is so much stress in our lives and some of it can be avoided. Whether it means organizing our home, canceling all those email subscriptions or giving up an activity that isn’t fulfilling, having less chaos around us allows us to focus on things that are important.

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6. Do what you love

I recently left a job that I had for five years because I was miserable the entire time I worked there. Money is important, but there is something to be said about people who follow their dreams, who are inspired and passionate, and who can go home after a long day and still be excited about waking up in the morning.

Visit: The Five Things You Need to Know About Finding the Work You Love

7. Become an expert

It always feels great to be the “go to person” when we are knowledgeable, experienced and passionate about a topic. Becoming an expert in an area that interests us, whether it’s table tennis or exotic teas, can lead to job opportunities, new friends and personal satisfaction.

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8. Forget regrets

Our mistakes make us stronger and define us. If our actions are centered on good intentions, careful consideration and honesty, we can look back on disappointments as growth opportunities.

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9. Smile more

Without a doubt, smiling leads to positive attention, but there are hundreds of other social and health benefits. If lowering blood pressure isn’t a good enough reason, then we can choose to do it because it makes us more attractive!

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Are there any other important resolutions that I missed? Leave your comments and let’s make a more complete list together!

Happy New Year!

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Playing With Dolls Wouldn’t Have Landed Me In China

December 7, 2008 · 2 Comments

Did I really know what I wanted to do with my life when I was six? It’s a tough question and I’m not sure that I have the answer, but I definitely have my opinion based on personal experience. I’ve heard plenty of discussions among parents, psychologists and athletes regarding children being forced to play and excel at sports. It seems that the vast majority of parents believe that a child should choose to participate in what interests him or her. If there is passion, the child will pursue it and there would be no need for parental intervention.

I’m not sure that I fully agree with this philosophy. When I was five, my father took me to his table tennis training sessions. He was a very successful coach in the former Yugoslavia. His players have won numerous European, World and Olympic medals. When I was six, we decided that I should try playing. My father wasn’t my coach initially, but I began training seriously every day with dozens of other kids my age. After a few years, I began to go to tournaments and travel throughout the country with my team. We competed in leagues and met other young players from different cities and countries.

Throughout my young table tennis career there were many days when I didn’t feel like practicing. After all, training was hard. I had to sweat a lot and my muscles were sore. I would have rather played with my dolls or gone to the ice cream shop with my friends. I even wanted to quit a few times. My dad wasn’t a big fan of that idea, so I continued to train intensively. Many people would say that my father shouldn’t have forced me to play. He should have let me decide. However, I’m not sure that I knew what I should have been doing at 6, 7 or even 13 years old.

These days, it is common for children to be involved in many sports and activities. They don’t practice regularly and they quit the moment that they are not having fun. The philosophy is that it’s up to the child to decide what to do, when to do it and for how long. Many times, the outcome is that the child prefers to play video games. After all, how many children like to sweat and hustle for several hours a week trying to learn a sport?

Looking back on my life, I would be extremely disappointed if my father had allowed me to quit playing table tennis whenever I didn’t feel like playing. My competitive career has led to many opportunities, friendships and life lessons. These are just a couple:

- I was the US Open Junior Champion twice (though training can be difficult, the best part of playing sports is winning!)
- I traveled all over the world to train and compete, in countries such as Romania, Hungary, England, Serbia, Croatia, Germany, Belgium, China
- I represented the US Youth Team during the Enron Millennium Friendship Tour in China for the anniversary of Ping Pong Diplomacy
- I received good grades in school because I knew the importance of hard work and practice
- I was hired to perform in exhibitions for General Motors during the Driving the Olympic Spirit Tour
- I appeared on television several times and one of my matches was featured on Pass Sports (now Fox Sports)
- I was accepted to top universities based (in part) on my table tennis activities
- I learned the value of dedication and responsibility
- I became more open-minded and outgoing
- I made a ton of friends

Ultimately, I would encourage parents not to give up on their children’s dreams simply because they don’t feel like training once in a while. If children are interested in a sport or activity, parents should be supportive and remind them of the benefits when times are tough. I am not an advocate of parents forcing their children to do something they dislike doing or living out their own dreams through their children. However, an activity should not be dismissed simply because there are some rough patches. I am certain that I wouldn’t have chosen to train every day when I was 8 years old without getting a nudge from my dad. But at 8, I am also confident that it would have been difficult to recognize all the life-changing experiences that would come from being a serious competitor and a great athlete. One thing is indisputable – had I only spent my time playing with dolls, my life experiences wouldn’t have been so rich.

I recognize that this topic generates some strong opinions and I’m eager to listen to your thoughts. Please post your comments.

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You’re Not Special, But In A Good Way

November 12, 2008 · 1 Comment


Dave is one of the first people I met when my family came to the United States and he’s been a great friend for the last 17 years. Dave is a child psychologist and he loves what he does. I like talking to Dave because he gives the greatest advice. On more than one occasion, Dave has said to me “Meem….you’re not special” followed by an explanation. I know you’re wondering why a friend would say that, but let me explain….it’s a genius idea.

Dave and I talk about my struggle with relationships. Sometimes, I feel like I can’t find someone that is trustworthy. Dave would ask me, “Mimi, can you be honest and trustworthy in a relationship?” Once I said yes, Dave would say, “You’re not special. If you can do it, so can somebody else…somebody that may be the right person for you.”

Then, I’d complain about some of my friends. I recall a time when I was struggling to find friends that truly cared about my well-being. Dave would ask me if I cared about my friends’ well-being. I’d say yes, of course. Dave would reply, “You’re not special. If you can do it, so can others.”

You get the picture, right? We all like to think that we’re unique and great people. And we are. But Dave has taught me that we are not so unique in some of the most important aspects of life. If we can be kind and honest and loving, so can other people in our lives. The key is to surround ourselves with non-special people just like us!

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Aim High

November 9, 2008 · 2 Comments

I want to be just like Barack Obama. It’s a huge, perhaps impossible goal, but why not aim high? I respect him as a politician and public figure, but I’m most impressed with the man he is during difficult times. His integrity, silent confidence and composure are qualities that we should all strive to have. No matter how much he was knocked down and insulted, no matter how tired he was and how far from victory he felt, this man stayed optimistic, gracious and strong.

So, I’ll be taking baby steps in a journey to become composed and collected as the man who inspired me. I feel so lucky to be able to watch him during the next four years and learn even more. When I interact and am challenged by my friends, my co-workers, my competitors and even my enemies, I will ask myself, “what would Barack do?”

My favorite quote from his speech in Grant Park:

And to those Americans whose support I have yet to earn I may not have won your vote, but I hear your voices, I need your help, and I will be your President too.

Mr. Future President, above all, you make me want to be a better person. Thanks.

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You shouldn’t be willing to fall for someone who’s not willing to catch you

November 3, 2008 · Leave a Comment


One of my favorite books is He’s Just Not That Into You because it empowers women to finally recognize that a man who doesn’t want to ask them out, kiss them, be with them, etc is simply not interested. The beautiful thing about men is that they are not so complex. If they like someone, they go for it. And they probably try again if they fail the first time.

My most recent experience – a guy came to visit me in Chicago one weekend. We had been flirting online and on the phone. He seemed to like me. And why wouldn’t he? I’m cute, smart, funny, fun, etc. He spent three days here, during which time we had a lot of fun. We even held hands a few times. However, he never once tried to kiss me after claiming on the phone that he can’t wait to get his hands on me. We had a conversation about “us” and he said he was confused about what he wanted from me. He didn’t want to “hurt me” by giving me the wrong impression. I felt terrible for a while, wondering why I had been rejected and what was wrong with me. Then I remembered my book and read it again. I felt so much better because it reminded me that a guy who likes a girl will tell her and show her. There is no confusion.

So, now that I know that he’s just not that into me, I think I can move on. Don’t get me wrong….I may have gotten a little teary-eyed considering how much I like him and how excited I was about him, but I really don’t plan on wasting too much time on someone who isn’t crazy about me and who will settle for holding my hand. Those for whom we fall hard should be happy to catch us!

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Meet Jessie

October 30, 2008 · 1 Comment

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 This is my teacup chihuahua Jessie. I decided to introduce her now since she’s sitting on my neck and snoring. Thus, I can’t focus on anything else.

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